The world is a lot less whole without Mikhail Zaplishnyy in
it.
I may not have known him as well or for as long as my husband did, but
during the past 2 years that I have gotten to know him, I learned that he was
the type of person who could see through people and their intentions in his own
way.
His ability to make others laugh was and is unique, cheesy and terribly inappropriate,
which is what made him so much fun to hang out with.
What really made him stand
out to me though was his almost intimidating wisdom. It wasn’t just the fact
that he was in his 30’s and we were a bunch of 20 somethings dorking around.
His experiences went beyond the extra decade he had on us.
Just as remarkable
as his depth of wisdom was his generosity. When he saw in someone the kind of
friendship that could last with great meaning, he would do more than what was
even expected of a close friend. He treated those he loved like family and I am
forever grateful for that – especially towards my husband who considered him a
brother.
When we found out that he had cancer in December of 2011,
none of us doubted that he would beat it; however I couldn’t help but questions
why such a terrible thing could be allowed to happen to such a wonderful person…but
I think that’s normal.
As he fought it, we rooted for him and cheered him on.
When he conquered it, we figured it was over and done with. End of story.
Sadly
it wasn’t because in October of 2012 we found out he had leukemia. Despite the
difficulties, he pushed forward with the help of his wife, family and friends.
Even after the second round of chemo that nearly took him from us, the war wasn’t
over yet. In fact it lead him to Arizona where he sought alternative treatment
since the Doctors at Princess Margaret felt that there was not much left for
them to do.
Seeing him last week, my husband and I saw how he was taking
it and we wanted to support he and his wife and keep them happy and distracted as
much as we could. With a heavy heart, we left a few days later on Friday night,
wishing we could stay.
On Monday we found out that he died in the early morning
hours. I cannot even begin to express the sadness I feel over the loss of such
a great person. There is so much I wish I had said before we left that night,
but I know the regret and grief I feel are nothing compared to what his wife,
the family and close friends are feeling right now.
There is not much else I can say other than that my thoughts
are always of him and his family. It’s hard to escape the fact that he’s not
here anymore. When I think of idle things like a dental appointment or whatever it seems
to end with the horrible fact that he’s not going to be there. It’s like this
endless mental rope I’m following that has this frayed part in it that’s not
joining with the rest and it’s frustrating because it makes the rest of it seem
not whole…which it isn’t.
And then another part of me is thinking, “So that’s
it? That’s how it ended? But there was supposed to be more. There were supposed
to be more days, more conversations, more birthday cards to make for him, more
hang outs,” but now there isn’t. That was the last time I saw him. Here was
this constant means of communication with this person and suddenly they’re not
there, even if you have more to say those same means of communication have just
dissolved and there’s nothing you can do.
The Catholic in me is finding comfort in the fact that he is
in God’s Kingdom now. People like him earn a special place in heaven, not
simply because of his fight with cancer and leukemia but because of the person
he was. The fact that he offered guidance and humour and so much more to those
who knew him and the world as a result speaks volumes in this world and the
next.
To end
this on a happier note, I have to express the importance of becoming a bone
marrow donor at onematch.com. It is completely free to join. All you do is go
on the website, fill out a questionnaire and put your name and address. After a
few weeks, they send you some swabs for your cheeks, fill out a small form with
your name and information and then you just put it in the mail and you’re on
the list. You could save someone’s life. All that heartbreak can be completely
avoided if you join.